What do you do if you suspect something, or if someone is doing something that makes you feel uncomfortable? How do you approach them? What do you say to them?
When confronted, child predators will go on the attack and turn the situation around to make you look bad. They have been doing this their entire lives. Anything you could possibly say or do, they’ve already heard and seen before- and they have a way to counter it. So what do you do?
Keep it simple:
1~ Point out the behavior, be specific and tell them what you saw.
2~ Tell them this behavior is unacceptable and you don’t like it.
3~ Tell them to stop.
You should never label or accuse someone. All you have to do is tell them they’re doing something that makes you feel uncomfortable, and then tell them to stop.
Remember, you can’t tell who a child predator is by looking at them. Child predators are men and women, young and old, they’re older kids abusing younger kids, they’re married and single. They can be any race, any religion, and any sexual orientation. In other words, they are everyone and anyone.
You have to look at what someone says or does in order to determine if they might be a child predator. I say “might” because you never really know. Unless you witness abuse, someone confesses, or a victim comes forward, you cannot accuse or label someone. But you don’t need to do that in order to protect your children. You need to identify high risk people and high risk situations, and then keep your children away from them.
As adults, we're responsible for our child's safety. We cannot expect a child to physically or emotionally fight a predator. You need to put a stop to any behavior that makes you feel uncomfortable, even if it's not your child.